CONSENSUAL NON MONOGAMY
Italian with translation
Why talk about alternatives to monogamy?
CNM’s field of reflection seems a privileged and potentially very interesting point of observation for anyone who wants to question their own relational choices.
It makes sense to talk about CNM because an increasing number of individuals and couples are looking for viable alternatives to marital infidelity or serial monogamy for their intimate, emotional or occasional relationships.
It makes sense to talk about CNM because it broadens the spectrum of possibilities in favor of any other choice. A position, in some ways extreme of the spectrum, tells more clearly of the needs, desires, fears and insecurities that that choice highlights most, especially when outside the dominant norm.
In this sense it would be interesting to analyze the wish for closeness/freedom beyond an apparent dichotomy but opening it to an idea of co-ownership and complexity. The desire for stability, commitment and building a family is presented to us as incompatible with the desire for discovery and change. Would it be possible instead to conjugate, cross or otherwise look at both these tensions?
Such an intent would inevitably lead to a clash with the ideal of the bourgeois family, now clearly broken and fragmented under the pressure of civil and individual rights claims, although still celebrated by national and international conservative forces.
It makes sense to talk about it precisely because CNM, in its political sense, is undoubtedly in the wake of the sexual revolution, LGBTQ struggles and feminism. The resulting radical thinking adds important pieces to the collective and individual process of self-determination towards a path of relational revolution that tries to question, among others, the monogamous and couples-centered ideal.