It is quite difficult to know what is going on in the head or body of another during a sexual interaction. Words come with extra weight, and our vocabularies are not well developed to understand another’s erotic experience. Thus most understanding comes after the fact, if at all, and thus the ability to act on them within the moment is gone. To go deeper into play, and bring play in new directions, it is advantageous to investigate and explore another person’s experience within a given sexual interaction. In this workshop, we will explore and share our experiences during erotic exchanges, by slowing down, finding our words, and stripping away any narrative that may exist either consciously or subconsciously. We will practice exploring and enquiring into each other’s erotic experiences, and through this find deeper and more interesting avenues of play.